Push Presents. Yes, this is a real thing. For centuries, men have been gifting their partner with something special after they birth a child, only now we have a catchy name for it called a “push present”. It’s not something the Kardashians invented with the help of a few commercial friends either. It’s a gift from the father to the mother as a thank you for what they’ve put their bodies and minds through for the last 9 months.
Isn’t the baby the gift?
Ugh! This question is infuriating to me. It’s implying in some way that the mother is not acknowledging the priceless gift she’s received at the end of pregnancy- the baby. The baby is what motivated us to become pregnant in the beginning. We endured morning sickness, flatulance, headaches, nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, hemorrhoids, weight gain, muscle spasms, stretch marks, sleepless nights, achy joints, breast tenderness, back pain, bleeding gums, mood swings, constipation, and fatigue because we wanted a baby. And, we’re thrilled when we finally get to hold that sweet chunk of love and squishy flesh in our arms!
That being said, it would also be nice for that endurance to be acknowledged by the father and after a grueling labor, painful contractions, and a tummy or vagina that’s been split to shreds, a gift can’t hurt, right?
So, what makes a good push present?
First, know your partner! Think about the types of gifts you’ve given them in the past and which type of gifts they’ve liked the most. Think through comments you’ve heard them make about things that are special to them, experience they’ve longed for, etc., and decide what type of gift would be best and go from there.
Do they value sentimental, timeless gifts such as keepsakes and jewelry?
- Rattle from Tiffany & Co. and get it engraved
- Sterling silver or gold jewelry box with a quote about the babies (or your love) etched on it
- A necklace or bracelet with your child’s initials
- Upgrade their engagement ring or wedding ring, or design a right hand ring with baby’s birthstone
Does your partner prefer experiences?
- Plan the first family vacation
- Book a spa day for mom (and her best friend) for a few months after the birth
- Buy tickets to a broadway show or concert coming to town (and secure the babysitter in advance)
- Arrange for them to have the dance lessons or piano lessons they’ve always wanted
Do they tend to like practical gifts?
- Pay off a bill that’s been nagging them
- Upgrade your vehicle for one that suits the new family
- Spring for the jogging stroller and new sneakers
- Surprise her with a glider/rocker for the nursery
The purpose of the Push Present is not to “keep up with the Jones'” or show off to friends; it’s a gift that shows your partner you’re thankful for them, grateful for what they put their body through, and head over heels in love with them for giving you the most precious gift of all- a baby. Or, in my case, TWO babies!