I’ve been spending a lot of time with my mom friends and realizing that very few of them make time for themselves on a regular basis. They barely eat, they never get out of the house (or they work long hours), they’re overtired, and they don’t utilize the support they have around them. Remember…
Moms, you must make time for yourself! Remember you? What do you need? What do you want? And, how can you make it happen?
I know many of my readers may not have the funds to get regular massages or even a massage once a year- I’m sensitive to that. Trust me, I totally understand budget issues and this isn’t about that. It’s about recognizing that you have needs too and you need to make yourself a priority.
- An uninterruped bathroom break
- A massage monthly, every 6 months or AT LEAST once a year
- To eat sitting down using utensils (not eating only what’s left on the high chair trays)
- Yoga, pilates, or meditation at least 3 times a week
- A ladies night out occassionally
- A vacation sans kids
- A spot in the home that is just their’s
I can see you rolling your eyes and I hear your huffiness, but these things are possible, chick!
Place value on a potty break. Shut the door! They may knock and scream, “Mommy” but politely respond, “This is mommy’s private time.” and do NOT give in. They’ll eventually figure it out.
Are you married? Do you have in-laws? Do you have any friends with kids? Neighbors with kids? Okay, then. Take them up on their offer to help and let them watch the kids for an hour. GET a MASSAGE!
If eating as a family without getting up 1400 times is damn near impossible right now, then eat while the kids are napping or in bed and schedule a night out to a restaurant without children from time to time.
Meditation could mean waking up 30 minutes earlier or going to bed 30 minutes earlier. Download a free meditation app & get lost in your thoughts. Many yoga studios and barre classes have online programs that allow you an escape from home while kids are napping.
Schedule a monthly ladies night. Your husband or family can watch the kids one night a month and if you have to get a sitter- do it! You can cut out a few lattes, magazines, and other miscellaneous things to spare one evening with your ladies.
A vacation without your kids is really difficult depending on ages of your kids and finances, but we can dream, right?
Create a spot in your home that is just for you. Maybe you have a large closet & convert it into a craft room. Maybe you create a sitting area by your bedroom window with fashion magazines or your kindle. Claim your sanctuary.
Being a mom is tough, but giving up your sense of self, and your health, for your kids is even tougher!